HEY GUYS! Have you noticed that women are tearing this whole fucking system to the ground? Have you found yourself saying things like "this is unfair" or maybe this banger "it's hard to be a guy right now" or maybe a little "Patrick Brown's trial by media is super unfair"? Well, you're right and you're wrong and I'm here to tell you why and how.
With virtually everything I listed AND WAY MORE you are wrong, but you're goddamn fucking right women are tearing the whole system down! We never let them up in the first place so what did you expect?! Horrible men spent the last 100 years assaulting them whenever they got the chance, and then laughed at them whenever they asked them to stop - and then just KEPT ASSAULTING THEM.
Do you also find yourself thinking that the #metoo movement has gone too far? This is too much? Homies, this is JUST GETTING STARTED and we are not doing ANYTHING to help it. And notice that I didn't say "we aren't doing anything to *stop* it" I said, "help it". Because we should be helping it and here's one way:
Let's address the spectrum. That place that exists between that time you tried 400 times to talk a girl into having sex with you who didn't want to, and Harvey Weinstein. That exists. There is a spectrum. Patrick Brown is somewhere in the middle of that spectrum. But we have sympathizers (Christine Blatchford exists in this space, FYI, stop posting her GARBAGE article) saying things like "Patrick Brown didn't commit a crime and he is not Harvey Weinstein". No, he isn't - but how would we know as he just FLED THE FUCKEN BUILDING AND REFUSED TO TALK ABOUT IT. You know what would have been good? Something like this:
"You know what - that happened. I did those things that these two women describe. It was 10 years ago and I behaved very badly. I asked a high school aged woman for oral sex in a very, very intimidating situation and I cannot imagine what hell she has been going through for the last 10 years. I feel I have evolved as a human since then and I would like to discuss this. I would still like to be this party's leader, but we need to discuss this first. I'm sorry for my actions and I will stand here to face them."
Something like that would have been great. Boom - integrity! Boom - a discussion! Boom - not Harvey Weinstein!
However, he did not do that. He did what everyone else who does not have a shred of integrity does - he denied it and fled the building. Well, guess what, this makes him Harvey Weinstein. Because that is the only common denominator you have left for all of us to observe. And that is why women are going to continue to tear this motherfucker to the ground and the men who support them are going to let them do it. It needs to happen.
When a Patrick Brown situation shows up, stop banding together and attacking women and sympathizing with the assaulter.
Guys, start HELPING women tear this down. Because only those of us who pass the litmus test get to help build it back up.
I have NEVER hid who I am.. I am a Kinky, Sexually Free, Furry, freak who LOVES doing strange and wonderful things with consenting adults..
I spent many years facilitating the education of those that were unaware of this lifestyle and wanted to find a way to experience and express themselves.
One thing I know for sure is we all have a little twist!
I preach this...
Your kink may not be my kink but I will respect you for being secure enough with yourself to live as you wish. That it may not be suited to my tastes but I will do my best to listen and learn about it so I can understand you better.
We are, from the very beginning, influenced by those that surround us.. and so many of us are shown that being different isn't good.. that those that chose to be themselves and enjoy the finer pleasures that their bodies enjoy are deviants (in a bad way)
I am living proof that being true to yourself and going after the things you find enticing, within a safe and "educated" atmosphere can make you a happier individual.
Why hide who you are and what you like.. from yourself especially.
Life is meant to be experienced.. we would not have all these feelings if we were not intended to explore..
Now we are fortunate to have so much information and places where we can learn and celebrate ourselves.
I used to run a group called the
motto was ARC
A - Accept our kinky individuality knowing we have no choice in how we feel and what makes us go WOW
R - Respect ourselves and those around us.
C - Celebrate our similarities and differences with pride, kindness and understanding.
It is harder to dismiss these feelings within..
Tragic we don't use these trusting relationships we find ourselves in to explore for we fear what our partner may think of us.
For it is within those exchanges that we find ourselves and allow others to enjoy who we are.
Why is it that "No criminal charges" are the sticking point to this whole Patrick Brown shit show..
Why do you think so many of us do not go to the police.. do you think its because we don't believe we were wronged??
NOT A FUCKING CHANCE
It is because for decades upon decades rape survivors have been blamed for having one drink too many, wearing the wrong clothes, leading the predator on, not saying no loud enough... it goes on and on...
Power, no matter who yields it .. from a politician to a parent.. can create an atmosphere where fear and intimidation are the basis for silence.
So much to lose.. but not for the powerful. for those they harm.
The powerful are surrounded by their people, who will lie and do whatever it takes to protect their person so they themselves will not have their lives change.
Let go of this idea that "assault" only counts if it is being shared with the police and charges laid.. if this were the case, and charges were something we were comfortable and able to do then we might not be having so many of these discussions..
For the message of STOP FUCKING WITH PEOPLES LIVES IN A NEGATIVE MANNER... will be understood as the consequences would be quick and hopefully painful.
These predators walk among us .. some closer than you would care to admit..